Are You a Fly or a Bee?

“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs.
If you do, they may trample them under their feet and turn and tear you to pieces.”
Matthew 7:6 NIV

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God,
who gives generously to all without finding fault,
and it will be given to you.”
James 1:5 NIV

Sometimes when we are hurting or overwhelmed, our first instinct is to tell anyone who will listen. We air our dirty laundry, hoping someone will say the right thing, fix the problem, or make us feel understood. Not everyone has the capacity to carry what we share. Most people are not equipped to battle their own storm; much less help you dig mud out of your own pit. Others may offer advice that pulls you further from peace, wisdom, and truth.

You don’t need to broadcast for others’ validation. Some won’t even give your pain a second thought. Some will turn your burden into entertainment. Some will listen and hand out pity which doesn’t strengthen you. In the process, you end up handing them the blueprint of your heart about details, emotions, and wounds that were never meant to be in everyone’s hands. Not everyone needs that level of access to you. Some people will not handle it with care. Some will misunderstand it. Some will take it and turn it into something it was never meant to be. To be honest, some don’t even care. You need God, wise counsel, and Godly, trustworthy voices who will tell you the truth in love. Your validation should come from God and not others.

Flies are drawn to manure. Bees are drawn to honey.

Some people are like flies. They are attracted to the mess, the drama, the chaos, the latest story. They don’t come to help give clarity. They land in it, spread it around, and leave you feeling worse than before. They nod, gasp, and say, “No way… OMG.” When the conversation is over, your pain is still there, only now it’s been passed around.  That’s why you go to God first. Tell Him first. Before the group chat. Before the rant. Before you call the friend who always has “tea” but rarely has wisdom.

Other people are like bees. They are drawn to what is good, wise, healing, and life-giving. They help you find truth in the middle of the mess. They point you back to God. They remind you who you are when you’ve forgotten. Bees don’t buzz around your pain for cardio. They help turn it into something stronger, steadier, and sweeter.

Privacy is power. What people don’t know, they can’t ruin. That doesn’t mean isolation, it means wisdom. Choose your circle carefully. Keep a small group of people who care for you, challenge you, pray for you, and don’t have hidden motives. People who want your growth, not your gossip. Seek wise counsel, and when needed, professional help.

If you fill your mind with too many voices, you eventually won’t be able to hear the voice of God. His voice is the one you need most.  So, stop feeding the flies. Bring your heart to the Lord. Stay close to the bees.

Reflection:

Are your problems on the loudspeaker more than giving them to the Lord in prayer? Are you asking God to bring wisdom or seeking it from anyone who will listen? James 1:5 says that if we lack wisdom, we should ask God and He gives it generously. God is not interested in fueling drama. He wants to bring healing, clarity, and direction. He knows who is safe and who is simply a fly in disguise.

Prayer:

Thank you, Lord for always letting me come to your throne with my problems. You bring wisdom and strength when I need it the most. You bring helpers and wise counsel to help guide me through the problems I am facing. Lord, keep me focused on you. The less noise in my head allows me to listen for your perfect path. Praise be to the 3:1.

Keep Praying,

Lesley Henry